If your house catches fire, your wife leaves you, your business goes bankrupt and you are falsely condemned by the media as an unholy monster… there’s no point in compounding your problems by also being unhappy.
One of my favorite books of all time is Being Happy by Andrew Matthews. Why? Because every single person on Earth wants to be happy. When someone writes a book about being happy, it should be required reading for every human of every age.
The problem of happiness is that darn individuality. Every one of us has our own notions and conditions for what it takes to make us happy. Let’s address that issue right now.
Since we as individuals determine our own parameters of what exactly constitutes happiness, then happiness is just a construct of our own thoughts. Happiness exists in your mind. Ultimately, you choose whether or not you are happy. You. Right now. You choose.
No other person, no other circumstance, none of those notions and conditions that you think will bring you joy and happiness are truly requirements for joy and happiness. They are phantom requirements concocted from your imagination. In point of fact, they are what is keeping you unhappy.
If you say that some person, or some condition, or some law, or some disorder is why you are unhappy… that is wrong. It’s a lie.
Any prerequisite in your mind for your own happiness is what makes you unhappy.
Like Abraham Lincoln said, “Most folks are as happy as they make up their minds to be.”
Decide to be happy.
It’s okay to be ambitious, to strive, to want more. It’s okay to be discontent. But be happily discontent.
Be happily discontent with your current circumstances and you will have an easier time changing them for the better (you should totally tweet that, I know I will).